Month: April 2025

For many couples, penetrative activity is by far the preferred form of sensual engagement, but it doesn’t have to be the only way in which two people connect sensually. Self-pleasuring is also a big part of a person’s sensual life, and sharing that with a partner can be an excellent way to add a new level of intimacy to a relationship. Men fondle themselves anyway, as a matter of course and as an aid to their male organ health, so why not incorporate it into couples play? Of course, some individuals may be a little shy or reticent about self-gratifying in front of a partner – in which case some simple self-pleasuring games may help to “break the ice.”

What are some self-pleasuring games that a couple might employ to add a new dimension to their sensual lives? The possibilities are endless, but here are a few ideas to get started.

Use dice

A pair of dice can come in handy as a self-pleasuring aid in a number of ways. For example, assign odd numbers to the female and evens to the male. Roll the dice. If the total is odd, the woman begins self-stimulating; if even, the man does. Let’s say “six” is rolled. The man starts stroking and continues stroking as the woman rolls the dice again. If it is even again, the man continues stroking, and does so until the woman rolls an odd number – at which point she self-gratifies and the man rolls. Play continues in this way until release is achieved.

As a variation, one player rolls the dice and the other player must stroke his manhood or rub her female organ the number of times that appear on the dice. Players can also decide that instead of stroking themselves, they stroke their partner.

Use cards

Playing cards can also be useful to ease into self-pleasuring with a partner. A simple game of strip poker can be used to get the participants naked. After a player has removed all his/her clothes, they can then bet a number of strokes on a poker hand – such as, “I see your four strokes and raise you three.” Whoever loses the hand then strokes or rubs themselves the required number.

Another alternative: assign two suits (say, diamonds and hearts) to the woman and two (spades and clubs) to the man. Turn over the top card of the deck; whoever’s suit is revealed self-stimulates the number of strokes indicated on the card. So a nine of clubs would mean the man strokes his member nine times. (Face cards can be designated as 10 each.) Keep turning over until all the cards have been played, then start again – but this time, the number of strokes doubles. So an ace requires two strokes, a two requires four, etc.

Play hide and seek

Traditional rules apply, except the players are naked. The player who is hiding starts self-gratifying as soon as they are hidden; the seeker as soon as they finish counting.

Adapt a drinking game

Many drinking games involve watching a TV show or movie and taking a drink every time a certain word is said or situation occurs. Try this, except establish rules to self-pleasure instead of drink. For example:

– Self-stimulate ten strokes every time the lead character’s name is mentioned.

– Any time a number is mentioned, stroke oneself ten times that number.

– When watching a horror movie, start self-stimulating when eerie music starts and continue until it stops.

Self-pleasuring games can add zest to a long-time relationship – but men want to make sure their members are in good shape for this kind of tournament. Using a superior male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) can help. Look for a crème that includes L-arginine, an amino acid that helps produce the effect that keeps male organ blood vessels open and receptive to proper blood flow. The best crème should also include acetyl L carnitine, which protects against the peripheral nerve damage that can occur during rough self-pleasuring and which can diminish sensitivity in the manhood. Being prepared makes the games more fun!

For many men, the first few months of a marriage go about the same way – the intimacy is quite frequent, the level of passion is high, and self-stimulation without that loving partner just doesn’t feel right. And besides that, there is more than enough bedroom fun going on to make a man completely forget about doing it solo. But when the passion dies down and longer periods of time pass between amorous sessions, good manhood care – and happy matrimony – might require a bit of self-stimulation.

Self-stimulation and marriage go hand-in-hand

The old idea that a partner should be more than enough to fulfill all sensual needs might be true for a brief period of time during that honeymoon, but the day-to-day routine and grind of simply living life begins to take a toll. Thus, self-stimulation comes into play.

There’s really good news about this: recent studies have found that the great things about self-fondling often translate into great things about relationships. Here’s what doing it solo can do for a marriage.

1. Stress levels drop. The longer a man goes without intimacy, the more tense he can become. This tension is then carried over into other parts of his life, leaving him less effective at work, more irritable with friends and much more likely to argue with his spouse over the most inconsequential things. Self-play is a magic potion that alleviates stress and makes a man happier, healthier and more pleasant to be around.

2. Take charge of pleasure. Self-stimulation during the ‘dry spells’ of a marriage can be empowering. It proves that a man is in control of his own pleasure, and that he can ‘pick up the slack’ when things get a little stale. This is a reminder that a man is in charge of his own happiness, and that he can take his problems in hand, so to speak.

3. Stay amped up. When too much time passes between hot and steamy intimacy sessions, a man can begin to feel as though he’s losing touch with his manhood. Regular solo enjoyment can keep desire levels high by reminding him how good it feels to have that pleasure and that can make him more likely to seek out his spouse for even more of that feel-good fun.

4. Fantasies run wild. Self-stimulation encourages a very active fantasy life, where anything and everything is possible. Those fantasies often turn into a question of ‘wonder what that would feel like in real life?’ And a result of that is engaging the spouse in the fun. A man with an active fantasy life can really light things up between the sheets, so don’t hesitate to think about all the naughty things that might be enjoyable.

5. Deal with attraction. Even when someone chooses to settle down for the rest of their lives with that one person they dearly love, that doesn’t flip the attraction switch. Spouses can still be attracted to people outside the marriage and wonder what it might be like to have a little private time with them. Self-stimulation can allow that fantasy to come to life in a very safe way that won’t cause any issues with the marriage – whereas actually trying it out would definitely be a recipe for trouble!

Getting ready for marital action

Whether a man is using self-play to fill in the gaps between intimacy sessions or having so many hot encounters that he doesn’t even think about solo play, one thing remains the same: staying ready for action requires the use of a powerful male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). Men who engage in frequent solo play should look for a crème that contains acetyl L carnitine, an amino acid that protects against peripheral nerve damage that might result from extended self-stimulation sessions. Look for a crème that also contains vitamins such as B5, A and C, as well as other nutrients, all applied in a Shea butter or vitamin E hydrating base.

Heading out to the gym? Guys who take that extra step to keep their bodies in shape are to be commended. With obesity on the rise, it’s more important than ever for a man to work a little harder to keep good and healthy. But one problem some gym enthusiasts encounter concerns male organ odor – and that’s one member health issue that every guy is anxious to nip in the bud whenever possible.

Male organ odor cause

For many women, male organ odor is the number one complaint they have about their men – and often the number one reason why they may refuse to perform oral sensual activity on a dude. Some women tend to be disgusted by it, assuming that it simply means the guy doesn’t know how to practice basic hygiene. What they don’t realize is that male organ odor can happen even when a man showers every day.

Body odor tends to occur due to bacterial growth, and bacteria simply love to grow and thrive in areas that are warm, moist and dark. Sound familiar? That’s an apt description of most male crotches. Being tucked away beneath two layers of clothing (unless a guy is going commando or walking around free), creates a situation that is both dark and heated. And that heat creates the sweat which provides the moisture component.

Add in a vigorous workout and the potential for heat and sweat skyrockets even more. Then try hanging out in a steamy locker room, and it’s amazing that a guy’s manhood isn’t overloaded with bacteria by the time he leaves the joint.

What to do

So bacteria and the resultant male organ odor are going to be a struggle. What can a guy do to help win the fight against male organ odor?

– Wash even more. Most guys tend to take a shower after a sweaty workout – but it pays to also give at least a thorough sponge bath to the male equipment before beginning a workout as well. Also, some men opt to leave the gym directly after a workout and shower when they get home. They should try to avoid that; the travel time gives the bacteria an opportunity to sink and settle in, making it harder to get to them. Showering at the gym is usually a better option.

– Change clothes afterward. Thankfully, most men already know better than to take a shower and then get back into the sweaty underwear and/or pants they were wearing before. But for those that don’t already know this, start changing those clothes right away.

– Make sure the clothes are clean. It’s very common for a guy to change out of his street clothes into workout clothes and then back into the street clothes he came in wearing. But those clothes have likely already accumulated sweat along the way; it’s better to change into a fresh pair of clean clothes – at the very least, clean underwear and trousers.

– Use a fresh towel. Never use another dude’s towel. Either bring one from home or use a laundered towel from the gym. A towel that has been used by another person is likely to contain bacteria.

– Promptly apply an appropriate crème. Gym enthusiasts can help avoid male organ odor by regularly applying a quality manhood health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) especially right after the member has been washed and thoroughly dried. For male organ odor purposes, the crème must contain vitamin A. This vitamin is respected for its potent anti-bacterial properties; applied topically in crème form, it hunts down and eliminates many of the nasty bacteria that create stench. For extra help, be sure that the crème also contains vitamin D, which is nicknamed the “miracle vitamin.” Essential vitamin D fights disease and supports healthy cellular function, keeping the manhood in better shape to resist odor-causing bacteria.